We all have a picture in our mind of how we WANTED our life to turn out. For me, it was being married to my soulmate forever, raising our family together, then retiring & traveling to historic places together. If you’ve read my story, it didn’t quite work out that way. It was so hard for me to accept that life was no longer going to exist during and after that abusive marriage ended, and a few years after that!!
When thoughts are bringing you a lot of misery and you’re never finding enough peace, it is definitely time to let it go. When I first heard the words “let it go” at a very young age, it was rather upsetting to me mainly because I didn’t know what that statement truly meant. If you are like me, you grew up wanting to control every aspect of your life so that you’d attain pure happiness. Ummmm, nope, not so much! Now looking back, I truly didn’t understand the value in that statement. Many, many years later, I’ve learned that there is FREEDOM in those words! In letting go you are making a personal choice to release all of the doubt and worrying you’ve had about a certain outcome, situation, or person. No you can’t control what is happening, but you CAN control your RESPONSE and the MEANING you give to it. You are making a conscious decision to say “I will NO LONGER DWELL ON THOSE THINGS WHICH I CAN’T CONTROL, it is time for me to focus on what I can.” Let me tell ya, it is going to take some work though!
I had to go through a mourning process and truly realize that I’m already living a real life, not one that I imagined that I was entitled to! We have to accept life as it is in order to find true happiness. Then ups & downs won’t affect us so much! 💜 We must live right here in the present. As much as we may want to go back into the past to fix those issues that are bringing us so much sorrow and doubt in the present, we just can’t. We must make a mental effort to allow ourselves to enjoy all the moments that are unfolding right before us in the here and now, all the good and all the ugly! So will today be the day that you’ll finally decide to let go or will you just continue to hold on and cling to that pain a little bit longer? What ever you decide, just know that you need to be a little more kinder to yourself and by continuing to stay stuck in ‘yesterday,’ you won’t be able to do that! Don’t wait as long as I did and become more of a victim to your circumstances, instead take better control how you respond to what is happening to you….accept, then let go! 😉
Overall, celebrate your life for what it is right now, including every glorious moment & every ugly experience. You only have one life, let go of what you thought and make your present day life more magical!! Release those butterflies………………..breathe out, breathe in, now let’s begin again! Cheers to letting go!!
Until next time,
Christina J. …aka, Purple Diva
